If it's one of the 'right click' tools I know that you are using to do the client install, it copies ccmsetup from a directory on computer running the SCCM console, copies it to the client machine an executes it remotely using PSEXEC. If this is the case, then you will probably need to update the CCMSETUP.EXE file used by the tools to be the SP2 version.
As for your Software Update Point issue, installing WSUS on the SCCM server (but not configuring it) is the right approach, as a Software Update Point utilises WSUS to perform synchronisation.
The steps are quite simple.
Start the WSUS 3.0 SP2 install (needs to be SP2 for Windows 7 and 2008 R2 support)
Choose to install WSUS to a custom website (ports 8530 and 8531), this stops WSUS from conflicting with configuration manager
When the install is complete, do not configure WSUS (just cancel out)
Install the Software Update Point on the SCCM server (and specify the ports 8530 and 8531)