Unfortunately I don't believe you will be able to pass through the SCSI connection from the Parent to the Guest VM. Your best bet is to connect the tape drive to an iSCSI bridge. That will give you the ability to present the tape drive as an iSCSI target to the Backup Exec VM.
See
http://blogs.kraftkennedy.com/index.php/2010/01/05/virtualizing-scsi-tape-drives-with-an-iscsi-bridge/The StarWind iSCSI target is a popular choice.
Good Luck!